My Big Brother Stephen David Garbett. You were born on 6th October 1951 at St Mary’s Hospital Armley Leeds 12. The eldest of 4. You lived all your youth at 23 Lingwell Road Middleton Leeds 10. You attended Middleton Primary Infants then Junior Boys then Senior Boys. When you were 2 there was a knock on the door and when mum went to answer there was a police man asking to speak to Stephen Garbett. Mum pointed to you sat in the kitchen sink getting washed and said he’s there. The officer looked at you then mum and couldn’t believe it. He had been told that you were throwing stones and he had come to tell you off. That was the one and only time you were in trouble with the police. Just before your 3rd birthday I was born and all you wanted was a Patricia Ann so that’s how I got my name (thanks for that). We had a lot of happy times especially on holidays in Scarborough and camping in Wales and Ireland with Auntie Julia, Uncle George, Susan & Paul. On one camping trip we got stuck in the mud and the army came and pushed the car out whilst my dad took us kids. He looked like Moses with his big stick to help him through the mud - carrying me, with everyone else following. We didn’t always see eye to eye though and had a lot of arguments as kids do, but I always knew you were there for me. If I was ever picked on at school you never let on you were watching - you would have a word when they were going back into school after break. It was while you were at school you got your passion for football. You lived for football, and even if I say so myself, you were very good even from a young age. Aged 5 you left home after getting into trouble for something, all you took was your football no clothes just the ball. When mum came to see where you were, you were just at the side of the door near the wall sat on the ball so you didn’t go that far. You were never keen on rugby, as the twice you played at school you broke your collar bone. It didn’t help that one of the times was by your mate George (Bally) who was twice the size as you. You were only a little weedy thing then who you couldn’t see if you stood behind a lamp post. George on the other hand was like man mountain and went on to play rugby when he left school. I remember when you were around 14 years old you had been out with Ray Carr and friends, you were late home (Ray was older than you). I wouldn’t go to bed until you got in. It was around 10o’clock when you got home, dad was going mental. When you got in he really laid into you (which you could give your kids a clout then) both myself and my mum were shouting at him to leave you alone. Only when I knew you were ok would I go to bed. But I must say you were never late home again while still at school. Every Saturday we went off to watch you play football; we went all over to watch you play with Leeds City Boys. As you got older you played for Inter Kiev at the weekend and any other team that you could fit in. When you were around 17-18 you got trials with Brighton & Hove. They were going to sign you up to play for them, however just before signing they changed managers and he didn’t want to sign you up. You were gutted but came home and carried on. Your other passion was fishing. When you were about 17 you caught a fish and brought it home, you told mum you wanted it for tea. She cleaned it skinned it cooked it, you took one look when she gave it to you and said I can’t eat it. Needless to say she wasn't very pleased and you didn’t bring another one home. You used to go overnight fishing a lot and believe that you had a few trips to Scotland. When we were in our teens mum had Neil and Donna. When you found out she was pregnant with Donna all you could say was if you have any-more I’m leaving home. But you loved them both. They were like your shadows, so much so that they always wanted to sleep in your bed, but you never complained. When you were 19 you met Sue. Who later became your wife of 40 years. We married within a month of each other you in May me in June. Then in the August you and Sue left for Australia. You had got a chance to play football out there due to a family friend Colin Pickering who emigrated out there with his family. John Wilkinson & his family also went. You loved it out there but always said you would stay for two years then come home. That’s what you did. When you came home you continued playing football and fishing. Then you had our David and I had Caroline within 4months of each other. You were the first to see Caroline, you came to the hospital on Saturday morning and gave some cock and bull story as to why you were there. Then you went home and taunted Sue that you had seen her as she was coming in the afternoon visiting with mum & dad. We took the kids on holidays together and even got you to go on your first holiday abroad. We went to Benalmadena. That was it for you then, your holidays abroad had started. My marriage ended but I still had my family and you. Years later we got the news of your cancer which was a shock as we had already lost dad to it, but you soldiered on fighting it every step of the way. Just as we were getting our heads round it, Caroline got breast cancer. You were there every step of the way with her, she knew she could call you anytime if she needed to (for that I will be eternally grateful). She had her operation which thankfully was a success. When you had your first bout of chemo she was the one to talk you through it then. You accepted everything that got thrown at you and fought it every time. You always thought of others before yourself even though some days you wanted to stay quietly in bed. You laughed when I became a grandma at 49. Until our Sophie was born, then you knew what it were like to be a grandparent and you loved it. That girl melted your heart and she could do no wrong. You absolutely idolised her. You made sure she has plenty of lovely memories of you. You were in hospital when we got the news that you could fight no longer. You fought to the very end but you went peacefully with your family around you. You now have another beautiful granddaughter Georgia Rose, and rest assured those girls will always know what a wonderful person you were. Also don’t worry about our Sue, I will always be there for her as I do not look on her as a sister in law, but as a sister. Rest in peace, miss you more each day Love Pat